As you may have known, I turned twenty-two *insert TayTay’s song* last month and let me share to you 22 things that I’ve learned so far in my life.
- People around you will cause you to pressure yourself because you want to please everybody, not only others but also yourself. Then you’ll end up being stressed and anxious more often. But it’s okay because in time, you’ll realize that there’s only person that you have to please, that’s God.
- A lot of times that you want people to validate your feelings and thoughts. Yet you get the opposite instead. It’s difficult to be different amidst the crowd so you wear a mask that would fit in. But eventually, you get suffocated and so you isolate yourself. Don’t worry, God will find you there.
- You are somebody in Christ’s body. When you try to look for your identity from people, you’ll gonna end up hurting and lack. You will be wasting your time and energy. In and through Christ, you are someone of value.
- Tiredness temps us to just give up and go back. In those times, allow God to speak to you and remember that Jesus did not stop in the middle of His procession to the Calvary. He continued taking up that cross, telling you “Beloved, you are worth it.” So go on and fight… with God.
- When God called you, it’s not because you are capable of doing something. He called you because He wants to train and use you for His glory, and for your own good. Unqualified, He will make you qualified after He calls you.
- Sometimes you are so focused of your own identity and presence, that you end up breathing out words that aren’t pleasant. Instead of understanding the person talking, you shift the attention to yourself to make yourself look great. But what really makes a person great is humility and wisdom. Give people the time to express themselves, and try to understand them. Right words will come out if you truly connect your heart to them.
- There will be that time when you will become sensitive with people. You will start caring and valuing people’s lives around you because with everything that you have experienced, you realize that life is so short to be full of despise, isolation, and uncaring-ness.
- You will have to take a leap of faith to do what you’re not fond of doing. You have to go and leave your comfort zone. You have to push yourself to be uncomfortable so that you can obey God’s calling for your life. It will make sense along the way.
- You’ll learn that there are people who will only be there for a season. Regardless of how much you value them, or how much they value you, they will eventually go and leave. And in that case, you’ll be able to learn to thank God for there lives because at some point, they were part of your journey to becoming someone God is making of you.
- Do what makes you happy will not be your life’s motto. When you’re in Christ, it will be Do what makes Jesus happy.
- You’ll be nervous and anxious while waiting for God’s perfect timing. Yet it is nervousness and anxiousness along with pure joy because of excitement. The God-centered process of waiting is just so beautiful.
- Receiving blessings lesser than what you have prayed for doesn’t give you the right to be ungrateful. If He gave you something, that is really meant for you. Setback is, you don’t really have to find out why. Comeback is, you can always trust Him and be grateful because you are His child.
- Forgiving must be really so hard when you’re the one who felt pain the most, and when offender doesn’t feel a conscience at all. However, while God has loved and has forgiven us while we were still sinners, when we haven’t known Him yet, then there’s no reason for us to say no to forgiving.
- Our definition of defeat might be God’s definition of success. Maybe God is just protecting us from something destructive. If God allowed it, defeat in some ways is actually victory, just like our defeat to ourselves to let God win our heart.
- You don’t need to judge people to be able to express your own beliefs. You have to listen and understand, and you can express yourself with gentleness and kindness. You’re not really entitled to your own opinion, rather you’re responsible for it.
- Speaking with wisdom isn’t all about having great and complicated words to say. It’s being able to connect to people. Speaking with wisdom is all about learning, and application.
- Faith means being able to trust without reasons and logic. You just have to force yourself to do it even when it doesn’t make sense.
- Not everyone will be on your side. Sometimes the people who we want to support us is on the other side of the bridge. But if God called you to go on on that road, you have to choose who you want to be your company along the way. You know it.
- If you let people heal you, you’ll end up more destroyed than ever. Only your maker knows how to form you without a hint of destruction and hurting. In Christ, you are made brand new, you are given new beginnings. There’s only one Person you can lean on.
- If that pain you’re feeling is caused by obedience to God, then you have to embrace it. In Him, there’s joy in pain. There’s peace in hurting. There’s celebration in losses. There’s gratefulness in rejection.
- Rebuke is always noted as a negative insight of our performance. However, let yourself consume that rebuke, for your maturity. If it comes from God, surely it is for you to grow and bloom. These people risked their relationship with you just so you get to know your flaws and shortcomings. Let that rebuking build you up.
- When you’re right, choose to be gentle. Let your words be full of love even when you’re correcting. It’s not to show how great of a person you are, but to let that person know that he can still do great and improve. Help that person build himself. Be the blessing that he has been praying to God for, to help him in his journey. Then you’ll be somebody that person will be thankful to God for. And by that, God is glorified.
Being confident of this,
that he who began a good work in you
will carry it on to completion
until the day of Christ Jesus.
Philippians 1:6 ESV